Social & Emotional Skills Program

St Stephen’s has started the term with a new unit in our School-Wide Social and Emotional Skills program: Courage. In this first week we looked at defining fear and courage.


It would be helpful if you could revisit these key messages at home:​

  • Fear is a normal human response to situations that might harm us. Fear motivates us to check out whether or not the situation really is as dangerous as it seems and then, if it is, to take action to protect ourselves.

  • Everyone feels scared sometimes. Some people pretend they never feel scared but everyone does.

  • Different things scare different people. One person might feel nervous about riding a rollercoaster but not about acting on stage. For someone else it might be the opposite.

  • Courage means facing fear and not being overwhelmed by it. We need courage if we experience misfortune. We also need courage to face some of the ‘everyday’ challenges in our lives such as learning a new skill or sorting out friendship issues.

What can you do to help your child be brave?

  • Talk about when you have felt scared and what you did to overcome your fears and be brave. Give examples of times in your life of when you tackled your fears and ‘had a go’ at something that was difficult. Stress how pleased you felt afterwards.

  • Discuss the gains that being brave can bring (e.g. self-respect, confidence, skills).

  • Remind your child about the things that took courage for them to do when they were little but now seem easy to them. Explain that things that take courage for them to do now will seem easier and less scary as they get older.

  • Stress that throughout life there will always be new challenges that will require courage. Facing our fears is one of the ways we become stronger.